Panicked Visit to Dr J’s Skin and Wellness Center

Panicked Visit to Dr J’s Skin and Wellness Center

Being in #Kulongbia for so long ruined my skin. Actually I already have bad skin to begin with when I was young. It’s oily and would get zits all the time. The struggle is real! I had to go to so many dermatologists just to control breakouts. As I grew up, my skin improved a little. However it’s still very oily and all. Sadly I don’t just have battle scars from my trip to jail but I also gained a lot of facial scars. UGH. So I told myself that I really need to have my skin fixed once I’m out. Happily I was able to find a dermatologist that can help me keep my skin in check. I still have a lot of work to do but I’m glad to be able to finally have my facial and all that! So many new discovering when it comes to beauty stuff. Love it!

Meet Dr. Joe Ann Delovieres-Cruz, dermatologist and owner of the clinic. Look I was meant to be here! I came in wearing my pink jacket which matched doc’s PPE haha. It’s a match made in heaven. Loving my new plastic shoes haha.

Meet Angie and Ellen, they’ll be taking care of you! They’re so careful
First thing they let me do is to wash my face.
Had to check the bathroom, gosh I love the tiles! It’s designed so well.
I’m a sucker for beautiful comfort rooms.
I guess they use this for feet therapies or something. Nice!
Sadly my skin really got damaged in #Kulongbia . Hopefully this amazing clinic will help me recover! I have a lot of zits from where I came from.
Hydrafacial with Ellen. Enjoyed this one. It’s been years since I got a facial!!!! WHOA!
Ugh, I have so many zits to take out. The cleaning was actually good. My face doesn’t have anymore bumps unlike before.

I’m a blood donor now! JUST KIDDING haha. Got glutathione!
Wow all this entered me! WOW! I couldn’t believe it. In an hour I already finished it.
After I went to the 2nd floor, still beautiful of course!
Stairway to heaven haha. Evert step is a step closer to being a dyosa hahahaha.
Chairs! While waiting one must enjoy their spot. Like me, I made sure I enjoyed my time of waiting.
The magical bed. As you go on it… you transform into a beautiful princess!
Ready for my RF! But this time around was different. I used two machines.
So these machines are suppose to melt fat and the other to disintegrate the clumps.
What is she doing?!?!
She’s so determined! DAMN!
Both machines were rubbed on my fatty areas.
Saggy arms…huhuhuhuhuh. Here it’ll get thinner hopefully!
She measured again after the procedure! WOW I actually lost an Inch and half an inch pero area! AMAZING!!! Can I do this everyday? Hahahahaah
A moment to look at the flowers…even if they’re yellow lol.
Why does my reflection someone I don’t know? Oh…cause of the face mask! Damn… this face mask has covered up so many faces. It has a mysterious effect though. Para talaga sa mga secretive and demure ang mga masks. Buti na lang I am demure hahahaha WHAT?

I really liked the services of this clinic. I’ll definitely return! SO far my skin does look clearer. It will take a while to get to that perfect look I’m aiming for but I can feel the special touch they give. They’re very maalaga plus their machines are effective. Imagine losing inches immediately? Plus my face doesn’t have zits anymore. Well I still have scars but that’s cause I’ve neglected my skin for nearly 5 years. Either way I trust this clinic and I think it’s a good match for me.

Let’s bump into each other there!

DR. J’s Skin and Body Wellness Center:

737 N.S. Amoranto Sr. Street, Corner Cetacio Street, Barangay Siena, Quezon City, Philippines

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The extreme personalities I met in jail 2/3

The extreme personalities I met in jail 2/3
Personalities you meet in jail. ☺️😆😀

Did you enjoy my first pasabog? But wait, there’s more! Because jails are crowded and often full with all sorts of people from different parts of society, you really get to see all sorts of personalities and even genders inside. In Part 1 we discussed the jail hierarchy, now let’s talk about the other kinds of people I met inside. Let’s gooooo!

1. The Homeboys

They’re women that look and act like boys. Sure, you can call them tomboys (some may say they are either trans men or lesbians), but they are different! Some of them have already given birth. They have short hair, wear breast bands so they look like they have manly chests, and they all think they’re CUTE and CHARMING. They enter jail like they’re HEARTHROBS. They’re considered the only “boys” in a population full of girls. So whenever a new homeboy gets committed in jail, all the ladies try to get a glimpse at them and call dibs. They are the ones being relied on to carry the jail’s co-op goods like boxes of groceries, water gallons and sacks of rice. They are the “MUSCLE” of the facility. They are also expected to do the maintenance of the building. If things need to be repainted, doors are falling apart, sila yung go-to people for fix-it situations, under supervision by the jail officers of course. Sorry to say that the majority of them are PLAYERS. I stopped believing a homeboy when they tell me they are so in love with their homegirl girlfriend because in the years I’ve been inside, they switch partners immediately. It’s a crazy trip to Jerusalem type of relationship they have in there. Homeboys that already have partners outside, tend to still have many girlfriends inside. They’re flirts and when their wives give them food, sure ball they’ll give that to their girlfriend/s inside. It’s really funny! Imagine eating food from your partner’s ORIGINAL partner? Haha. It’s so normal to them already they don’t even choke on the food, haha! Only 1% of the homeboys are loyal. It’s quite rare to ever make a long-term match with them, lol. However they really are extremely helpful and handy. Also, they will compliment you constantly so they can boost your failing self-esteem daily. 

2. The Homegirls

These are the chicks that entertain the homeboys. What’s funny is that they simply have a merry-go-round with each other. They exchange partners after a month.  They are total flirts as well, all full make-up and ready to be checked out by the homeboys. Their clothes are most likely tight, and they keep beaded or crocheted wallets made in the jail with lots of different anniversary dates cause they have had too many partners. They act all super in-love when in a relationship (which is all the time, no down time for breakups) but are still eyeing the other homeboys that already have homegirls. They tend to fight with other homegirls for exchanging secret letters with their homeboys and they can be brutal. Only a few are really LOYAL. 

3. COURIER

This is a shadow, a mystic in the night. She is fearless ninja! She only operates during the hours when everyone is asleep. You will almost never know who this is unless she’s willing to carry your goods to your partner in the male dorm. This person most likely has a male trustee partner in the other side. Couriers will do everything to find ways to send illegal love letter to their man. Of course, other girls will try to ride in their daily shipping routine, because letters and other things must be shown to an officer before they get sent to the male dorm. However due to the pandemic, restrictions and how busy a jail gets, letters don’t get sent anymore. So, this girl tries her best to do this daily, unseen to keep close contact with her partner. Once caught, she is in for a lot of trouble, because sending unsearched itemas to the male dorm is considered an offense. Most likely she’ll be padlocked for a month, losing all her privileges. Officers wonder what are being traded between the two and that doubt makes the act of sending illegal. This girl has major throwing, hiding, and fast hands skills. Quite impressive really!

4. BRIDGETTE

You call someone “Bridgette” when they are secrets BRIDGES to unacceptable links. If there are secret lovers who are already involved with other people, BRIDGETTE is the one that enables them to communicate discreetly, being a courier of their love letters. She is the one that sends food back and forth and all other exchanges. Of course, she’s compensated for her secrecy, so she most likely gets food, toiletries or any of her needs filled as long as she continues to be the bridge haha. 

5. KOKAKs

These are the mga chismosang palakas and pakialameras – OMG there were SO many of them! They love spreading little bits of information they think are juicy and pass it on immediately as if they have a cellphone that says SEND TO ALL. They can’t keep their mouth shut. They will even gossip about their bedmates and friends. They do not discriminate. EVERYONE is included in their discussions. If you are quite “popular” then rest assured you’re most likely always top of mind. You have to avoid their gaze because if they see you do something, no matter what it is, they will find ways to make your actions sound juicy and report those to the world like professional paparazzis.  Many fights in jail come about because of chismis. They escalate and have a life of their own, so it’s damaging to the person’s image. However if sila naman yung pagchichismisan, they act like they are total victims that have been wronged and those that talked about them should be condemned. They just don’t get that karma is digital nowadays. Haha. 

6. BUNDOL

These are the people to fear! They tend to snitch on you. They see something that you’re doing, good or bad… they will eventually make it bulong to whoever may be affected and make it look so wrong to the point you will be reprimanded by the jail guards. I avoid these people! They’re so judgmental and think they’re perfect. They’re like silent firestarters that act all holy. They assume everyone else is scheming. They’ve already appointed themselves as the CCTV of the facility, so they are always on the lookout for more things to BUNDOL. They enjoy getting others into trouble with their little sumbongs that can do massive damage to the detainee. When confronted if they are the ones that tattled or made sumbong, they act as if they don’t even know the issue and pretend they’re mere victims of framing. They rarely confess that they made certain people look bad which led to the unnecessary punishment of a fellow prisoner. They are never to be trusted with secrets. 

So this turned out quite long. Comment below if you can relate to this. Perhaps someone you know falls into any of the categories? Haha.

Part 3 will be posted soon!

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K-cake by Mau’s Cupcakes

K-cake by Mau’s Cupcakes

K Cake by Mau’s Cupcakes

Look how beautiful this cake is! OMG, I die! Seriously, so much goodness in one cake. When I was Kolungbia, I was lucky enough to get cakes from my family. However they had to be BUTCHERED before they got to me. At first the jail officers would call me to show me the cake, then they would stab it several times as a way to search for any contraband possibly hidden in it. Of course they’ll never find anything but pure goodness. But imagine receiving a cake that has a greeting on top then it gets stabbed several times in front of you…. ugh. The message gets lost . I had to endure that for so many years. Some jail officers would be nice enough to trust me and let the cake in as it is. But sadly those that simply don’t care about the feelings that come with receiving a cake simply knife it so many times leaving no sign of its beauty at all. Oh and also there’s no way to refrigerate cakes inside so we had to devour them immediately.

I’m so thrilled that I can now have a pretty cake with soooo many goodies on top! Imagine, FERRERO ROCHER, sunflower sweets, strawberries, Toblerone and Maltese on top! It’s gorgeous!

With the SWEET couple, going strong since 2007: Bjorn and Mau! They own MAU’s CUPCAKES

I love supporting businesses by close-knit families and couples. I just like the products they come out with, everything with pure love! Thank you to these lovebirds for dropping off the cake to me personally. I really appreciated the effort! Plus look at what I’m carrying!! How can you not love it?

So I was expecting a FREEDOM cake and I didn’t know what they would come up with. When I opened the box and I saw the K, I loved it! Yes K has FREEDOM already and she can now bloom and look yummy! Didi I say that right? Hahahahahaha! Just kidding. It’s perfect because this represents what I feel right now, super blooming in every aspect!

Sweet Note from Mau & Bjorn

I am a sucker for little notes and letters. Those made me feel very loved inside. So don’t forget to send loved ones cute letters to remind them that they’re on your mind.

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Some HATE messages I recovered on FB and my reactions

Some HATE messages I recovered on FB and my reactions

Upon trying to recover my social media accounts this 2021, I found out they were all deleted. My family originally disabled them when I was being bashed online after the incident happened. I didn’t want my family and friends to be part of the hate train so I agreed with the thought that I was going to be able to return home immediately and get my socials back online. But when my family told me these accounts were being bombarded with a lot of insults, we thought it best to close them. I lost all my many followers, but that’s alright because I can always begin again with new socials. Lucky for me though, I was able to salvage one account that wasn’t disabled because it was what I used for work. I didn’t really give it importance… and it’s ironic how that account would be my re-entry to social media. BTW just to reply to the guy on the preview picture, BILID prison is for MALE inmates…not female inmates… lol.

Now that account received hate messages too. Here are the funny ones I recovered. I was thinking of leaving their names exposed since they were confident enough to send such messages to me, but the good girl in me thought to keep them anonymous for their benefit. 

  1. It’s funny how my downfall has affected his entire industry. LOL grabe…laki ng epekto ko sa business niya. Sorry naman! 

2.    Umm this guy seems to know me so well but THANK YOU for the suggestion of getting dalaw. It’s TRUE that the CORRECTIONAL INSTITUTION OF WOMEN gives you as a “resident” a higher GCTA (good conduct time allowance) when you receive visitors. Well that’s according to the girls who are currently there. Having dalaw means that you will have support when you return to society. However, that only applies to sentenced people. Either way you still have hope to go home if you’re moved there from city jail.

3. Though she seems like a dignified person, I’m saddened to receive such a judgment. No, I didn’t ruin anyone’s lives, my life was ruined because of that awful accusation… Maybe next time don’t comment about things you don’t really know about. She represents all the people you’d least expect to react this way but oh well.

4. Ok… hahaha this guy is funny! In retrospect, one of my very first tasks inside was wiping the bars. Nothing was sexy about it though. Hahahaha!

5. This one is really out of this world. Lahat na lang ata tinuro sa akin. For clarity there have been many instances that my pictures were used on different fake accounts. These accounts have used my name and pictures to swindle money from whoever will fall for their trickery. I wonder if that’s what happened to this girl. It seems she had an actual, unfortunate interaction with a pretender. Or perhaps she just really wanted to blame all her bad luck on me? Either way I wish her well.

I don’t know why people send things they’re not even sure of. Their confidence in sending hate messages to strangers baffles me. This could possibly be just PART 1 and I might post more lol. But thank you to everyone who has been sending me love! Now that’s the best message you can send to a stranger, messages of love and encouragement. So yes, hit me up on http://www.facebook.com/KarenBordadorOfficial and Follow. I sometimes get to reply when sent a heartfelt message. See ya!

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Sketches

Sketches

Since there was no way to take photos inside jail, I imagined I was still modeling by creating poses in my head. I learned how to sketch and bring my imaginations to life. I had ART books brought in and requested specialized pencils however only two were allowed. It was challenging how every time there was searching (rummaging for contrabands), my pencils were always at risk. More to come!

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The extreme personalities I met in jail 1/3

There are many distinct personalities that I will never forget in the female dorm.  They do not represent all detainees so please don’t assume that everyone you will meet inside are like this. If you were detained or have ever visited a city jail here in the Philippines then you’d most likely know these. They are honestly entertaining and funny to watch. They make the jail more interesting and bordering exciting. I suppose without them then there wouldn’t be so much action in prison. 

This will be a three-part post because it’s super long! Please watch out for Parts 2 and 3!

1. BAGO

This is what detainees who have only entered jail for less than a year are called; everyone starts here. They are the unruly juniors that still need to mellow out. They tend to be slow and still a little bit freaked out over their situation. They also still lack respect when it comes to the staff and to those who have been inside longer. You almost always need to call their attention, or else they will be the reason why the entire cell will be constantly punished because once inside, ang kasalanan ng isa ay kasalanan ng lahat.

One mistake of a BAGO can make cell leaders look bad, as if they were never oriented.  This causes a lot of reprimands by the officers. 

2.  LUMA

These are the girls that have been detained for many years (I fall in this category). They get more respect, like senior classmates or the sempai-kohai relationship in Japanese anime. They are considered supposedly the role models of the BAGO.  However, there are some that are so familiar with the jail system that they tend to get away with everything to the point that they may break the rules and go against jail etiquette. 

3. TRUSTEES

This is what you call all the jail aides or help who work directly with the officers. They are the ones that get to go around to restricted areas like the kitchen and the Co-op. Either they have a job inside these areas like being a cook or taga-luto, an administration staffer who helps with the records and reports, co-op tindera, or cleaner. Jail officers have their own trustees too who act like assistants in everything, from washing clothes to anything really. . Either way you get to become a trustee when you have a certain skill or they find you trustworthy. 

Trustees are compensated in cash and kind, and they get more freedom than everyone else. They also wake up earlier than everyone else and get back to the cell way later than the normal prisoner since they have many responsibilities. When a cell has been punished and padlocked, they are the only ones that can roam around. At times a trustee is a mini-me of a jail officer, so aside from tending to the officer’s needs, the trustee gets to join when the officer works out or even does fun recreational things like watching movies or doing sports. It can be fun to be one, and the title carries a lot of prestige.

Unfortunately, because of this, trustees also have a tendency na lumaki yung ulo. They forget that they are expendable. They suddenly eat the food officers eat, they earn a little and have influence over their bosses, and they kinda think they don’t have to follow rules that normal detainees are bound by. They constantly need to be reminded that they are still prisoners and they must follow the rules like everyone else regardless of their privileges. 

Trustees are good friends and allies to have. You get the direct scoop from them about the new possible changes that will happen at the jail since they work closely with the officers. Barely any secrets are kept. They can talk a lot. If they started off quiet, they’ll eventually be noisy as months go by. They will most likely tell others who’s currently on the hot seat of the officers and other interpersonal issues. Since they have more privileges, they will give you excess to  food for as long as they like you and their supplies allow it. They can possibly give you free onions, tomatoes, etc occasionally, which are like gold inside. Just don’t piss them off because they can directly have you punished by their officer boss. 

4. QTs (pronounced as CUTIES)

This is what we call Qualified Theft girls. They’re being accused of stealing money, normally by companies. QTs are known to be educated, well-versed and professional. Majority of them worked in corporations. They are normally handpicked as trustees to do paperwork and admin work in jail. They’re easier to talk to because they have a deeper understanding of things. They normally have loving family members supporting them. Unfortunately, their cases can be a little bit hard to win because corporations are brutal in court. Complainant companies have all the files from the offices and take control of them. Anything QTs can use as defense, companies will never let them have so their situations can be challenging. If any of them gets convicted, they face life sentences. Hence  they’re extremely prayerful and do a lot of acts of kindness in hopes that these will help them get home faster. 

5. JO10 (pronounced as J-O-ten)  or JO-WOW

JO1 is a jail officer’s rank. So detainees who act like jail officers are called this. This is never a good nickname. It only means you’re quite feelingera. You walk around like a boss and act like you’re above everyone. This J010 is a trustee who thinks and acts like they’re an officer because they’re always in close relation with their bosses. They are suffering a case of Hydrocephalus, or grabe sa laki na ng ulo na they don’t join in group therapy sessions and believe that the rules don’t apply to them anymore. While girls are seated on the ground in an event, the JO10s stand like the officers and think they’re one of them… they belittle detainee ways because they feel like they’re in a different level already… kaya JO-WOW!!! 

So what do you think? Let me know in the comments section. Don’t forget, may Parts 2 and 3 pa!

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Why you can’t force anyone to change

I thought that by giving someone sound advice, constantly teaching and mentoring can help someone change for the better. I thought that pointing out someone’s flaws and nicely or aggressively poking on it can make that person wake up to the need of a transformation. 

However people have simply gotten used to their ways. They don’t even know what they do, look bad to others. Most of the time their actions don’t have ill intentions so they aren’t aware that they can be hurtful. They may even think those that react about their actions are just too sensitive. In fact they can even think that everyone just does’t understand them. That’s when they get more rebellious and “obnoxious.” Since sinasabi nila na ganun ako, sige totohanin ko na lang! They become more of what they should’ve changed. I suppose nobody likes having fingers pointed at them. I know I don’t, it feels suffocating. When this happens, a person feels na “ang hard niyo naman saakin.” Being pointed at will only increase someone’s defenses and rest assured you won’t be considered an ally anymore, you’ll be seen as an enemy. Everyone thinks they’re right, so you pointing out that they’re wrong will only increase your gap.

After spending much time inside jail where constant reflections run through my head, I realized that we  ,outside forces, cannot make anyone change. We can complain about it, rant about someone’s bad habits and deeds, even tell on them all the time but that will simply be noise to a closed heart and mind. We cannot enforce anyone to see what we see unless they are willing and ready to change. Now I get when parents constantly advise children, though important, kids tend to receive it as a broken record being played over and over again. Only when children go through tough experiences that they realize their parents were right. 

So what can a person do to let someone change? As hard as it sounds, let them experience the difficulties of life. Let them do things that will allow them to feel embarrassed. Let them get punishments for their mistakes and let them feel how hard it is to correct what they’ve done. Allow them to go through the roller coaster of self-correcting. You’d be surprised that this is more effective than endless lectures. 

You’ve done your job constantly reminding and guiding. You cannot hold it against a person for not accepting it immediately. We all have our timing and levels of understanding. Lucky for you if the one you’re trying to hone listens and absorbs immediately what you’re trying to improve within that person. It only means they’re ready for it and are changeable. I stopped complaining about someone’s speed in getting my point. We’re just all different. Even our background and the way we were brought up can be worlds apart.. Expecting someone to change immediately will only disappoint you. So be patient with the person and listen to where they’re coming from. Perhaps you’ll have a more deeper understanding of that person.

So do you have opinions and suggestions as to how you can help others change and improve? 

Do share your comments and experiences. I’m sure we can all learn from them.  

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